damn this reall sucks for this girl from work

nimec
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Post by nimec »

As some of you may know I work at an Icerink. ?Well a new girl started yesterday who is 15 years old and a sophmore. ?We got to talking about kids and babies and stuff and she goes "ooh want to see my baby?". ?Me and the other girl that were working with her thought she just meant like a little sister or something, but she actually has a baby. ?Whats really weird is the baby has the same bday as me, November 21. ?It just really sucks for her cuz shes such and nice girl but now her life is screwed. ?She says she plans on goin to Burlington County College now so she can take care of her baby. ?Oh yeah she also said never again will she go out with a hispanic guy ever. ?It just really sucks, that shes 15 years old and has a kid. ?That means when shes 30 her daughter will be 15. ?And when she told us, we had no idea she had a baby, we would of never even thought of it. ?It only take one little short period of time to mess up someones whole life :(

Michael-Corleone
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Post by Michael-Corleone »

Sucks for her but, it was partly her fault too.

nimec
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Post by nimec »


Sucks for her but, it was partly her fault too.

yes this is true, but it still sucks.  I asked her why she didnt get an abortion and she said she just couldnt do it, its a baby.  I have to agree with her bout not gettin an abortion . If my gf got pregnant I wouldn't want her to have an abortion but ultimatly its up to her.


kylegoodmaster
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Post by kylegoodmaster »

she seems to be somewhat in control of her life atleast.

Kindred
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Post by Kindred »


That girls life is not "screwed up".  You cant say that because it is not fair to the child.  That child did nothing other than obey the laws of nature and come to be.  That young lady might have more hardships than most in the begining, but if she works hard she will percervere(sp).  I dont think MC was refering to an abortion.  The intelligent thing to do to avoid the whole mess is; 1. That kid is way too fucking young to be having sex.  2. Protected sex (i.e. the pill, condoms, diaphrams.)  While you can feel bad for her you have to remember that she is more responsible than the guy becuase it was ultimatly her decision to go ahead and have sex (peer pressue and waht not are cop-outs in my book because no one should be able to tell you what you should want to do or not want to do.).  I must tell that are feeling sorry for the wrong person.  You need to be more worried about that infant child who has only that young inexpirienced girl to protect and care for it.  I also seriously dont see relevance to dating a hispanic guy( sounds almost racist to me).


 


Again her life is not messed up, merely filled with more trials and tribulations and as I said before if she works hard and cares enough she will come out on top no matter how tough things get.


Jono
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Post by Jono »


I also seriously dont see relevance to dating a hispanic guy( sounds almost racist to me).

Probably becasue a hispanic guy "did it"


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Post by Blimpet »


Probably becasue a hispanic guy "did it"

Exactly what I was gonna say.


 


That's shit and everything, but she could have easily avoided the entire thing. At least she feels as if she has some kind of direction.


Kindred
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Post by Kindred »

So then the girl is being racists like I said.( Maybe not intentionally).  It is guilt by circumstance.  I mean it could have just as easily been a white guy or a black guy.

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Post by sh3p »


That girls life is not "screwed up". ?You cant say that because it is not fair to the child. ?That child did nothing other than obey the laws of nature and come to be.

is your mum 15 years older than you by any chance?


Kindred
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Post by Kindred »

Actually yes shep and then some.  My mother was 23 when she had me.

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