So, my friend's brother died the other day

action · Post by **action** » Thu Nov 14, 2002 6:15 am

Yea my best friends dad died last week as well.

NebZ · Post by **NebZ** » Thu Nov 14, 2002 6:17 am

y is everyone dying D;

big_tex · Post by **big_tex** » Thu Nov 14, 2002 6:23 am

Axe · Post by **Axe** » Thu Nov 14, 2002 6:23 am

I'm sorry to hear that Cat. Whenever a close relative dies of someone I know, it always puts me in such an awkward position.

Almost 8 years ago my best friend's father died while he was on vacation. I never did mention anything about it, nor did anyone else for that matter. But I always thought about what I'd say if it ever came up. I learned that consoling over a loss isn't always whats needed. Just try and be a good friend, and always be there for them. None of us can change what happened in the past, but together we can make the best of the times ahead. :)

r@nd0m · Post by **r@nd0m** » Thu Nov 14, 2002 7:55 am

Ah, I am sorry to hear this Cat. Hopefully things turn out okay. /me hugs and loves

Bean · Post by **Bean** » Thu Nov 14, 2002 8:34 am

Man that totally sucks. About six months ago my close friend and his family were victim to a petrol bomb, all his family were visiting from Pakistan he got out of the house ok with his mum and dad but heard his neices crying so he went back in only to get trapped in there with them he died a hero to us all and there was a large time of mourning and quiet mostly in the Asian community in the College. This was all because he was going to give evidence against a seen mugging of someone.

I think you should drag her off somewhere where its just quiet and peacefull and sit and just get chattin thats what we did and it was cool just to sit chill and talk about not just Ateeq but everything just going on. It totally sucks to see life go at such an age. My condolencies go out to the family and my strength to you Cat when your clearly in a time of needing to support your friend.

Angeldust · Post by **Angeldust** » Thu Nov 14, 2002 11:19 am

I just got goosebumps. I'm sorry cat. It's an awkward situation, I felt the same way when a friend of mine lost his dad. I guess I just made sure he knew that if he needed to talk about it, i'd be around till when he'd be ready to do so.

eventually he was able to start talking about it, and things got somewhat better. We'd start cracking up jokes about his dad and that really helped. :)

Vegemietian · Post by **Vegemietian** » Thu Nov 14, 2002 1:06 pm

that sux cat, im not sure what advice to offer you. Ive had a similar experience a couple of months ago, only it was my brothers unborn child that died (my nephew). I didnt really ?talk to him since we havent had much of a relationship in recent years.

I think i handled it badly, but how are you meant to offer your support to someone who youve just had a falling out with? A few weeks after it happened, my brothers wife talked to my mum and said my brother was disappointed with me and my dad cos we didnt ring him up and talk to him about it. But the three of us have never been the type of males that open up to stuff like this, so we didnt.

So i guess if theres one thing you should do, it is just listen to her and asks if she wants company. But be mindful she will want her own space and family time too. Asking too many questions can upset them even more, so just play it by ear and go along with whatever she wants to talk about or do.

Stiffer · Post by **Stiffer** » Fri Nov 15, 2002 8:51 am

mR p0t8o h3d · Post by **mR p0t8o h3d** » Sat Nov 16, 2002 3:20 pm

One of my friends found out yesterday that a mate of her's from home (we are at uni atm) died a couple of nights ago. I really have no idea what to say to her; I've only known her a few weeks and never met the friend...